Are you single and with few friends? Do you want to get in touch with more people, to make new friends or maybe to start a relationship but you don’t know how to start chatting and how to make the first step? You have come across the right article where we hope that you will find answers to your questions and of course help if you need it.
In this article, we will give you a couple of tips on how to start a conversation online on Singles.fm and other dating websites with someone you like and how to get to know a person better through chatting.
The ability to start a conversation or to chat with someone and maintain it, for some is not the easiest task. It can be really challenging to choose the right words when we get to know someone. Regardless of the person and situation, or the personality of the one you want to talk to, there are a couple of effective ways to start and have an interesting conversation.
If you are under 30, you probably are an active user of social networks and you know what that means. You know how to use and manage your profile on several online well-known platforms. Instagram is one of them and lately, this network has also become a dating platform.
What to start from?
But be sure, you can date and chat on all networks and many dating sites for singles, just seize the opportunity.
After you notice a person online or in real life (in a bar, a pub, a restaurant, a mall…) and you want to know her/him better, the first thing that comes into your mind are these social networks.
You may have noticed a colleague at work and you just want to become friends or more, there are several ways you can do that.
It would be better at first to start a conversation on some of these topics:
- ask for information
- ask for help or give it
- give a compliment
- tell a situation from your life
- ask for an opinion
- comment something positive
It is very important to avoid topics such as: salary, politics, age and religion. All this, in order to maintain a quality conversation.
These are the drivers of what is happening next. One of you must be ready to send the first message. The best thing would be something that is not too intrusive, but rather classic questions that will develop into a bigger conversation.
Here are a few topics to start a conversation
Ask for information
This is a great way to start a conversation! Ask the person you want to correspond with for some information that you may not need so much but this approach is always effective. Even if you know the answer to the question you asked and you can’t think of another topic, do it!
Give a compliment
Giving compliments to someone can brighten up a part of the day and boost their self-confidence. You can give a compliment based on what you like about that person. For example: if that person posted a story on instagram, send her/him a message with a compliment. Be polite. The rest is up to you and your imagination, but don’t forget to be funny too.
Introduction
We all know about this classic way of approaching and we are sure that someone approached you like this before or that you had this approach to someone at least once.
This is a direct approach to showing interest. It can be both online on a dating website like Singles.fm and in a real life.
Show genuine interest
Try to find a topic based on what that person is really interested in (the sport they train, their favorite band, the activity they do …), normally you can find this information on the person’s profile.
You can always learn something new and interesting from conversations like this! Don’t forget to stay positive and friendly.
Now, after you have started a classic conversation that involves questions such as: “Where are you from?”, “What are you studying?”, “Where do you work?”…It’s time to date!
Dating someone is not an easy thing to do, but don’t be afraid of rejection! It’s the experience that counts the most and the fact of trying.
The best way to get to know each other is to ask interesting and funny questions. By making her/him smile, you will be halfway to her/his heart.
Avoid too many personal questions that could take too much into a person’s privacy.
Here are some examples of questions:
- What’s your story?
- What makes you happy?
- What are your goals?
- What are your greatest achievements?
- What is your favorite book you’ve read?
- What makes you laugh the most?
- The best thing in your career?
And the list goes on.
We return to the things you should avoid during chatting and meeting someone. These things the other person can misunderstand and distance themselves from you.
Don’t tell them how they should feel
When a person opens up to you or complains about a certain thing, don’t judge them and don’t tell them what to do and how to feel. There is little chance that it will change that.
You’re telling them they are wrong
Be open to hear the story from another point of view even if the person is wrong, but don’t be direct with such words because no one likes to hear that, right?
Too much writing and too little listening
Focus on dialogues not monologues! Don’t dwell too much on a topic if you see that it cannot be developed into a further story. This will only bore you and turn off the whole conversation.
You ask too many personal questions
Nobody likes it when someone asks too much about their personal life. Don’t be too intrusive because the other person can even get scared.
We hope this article was helpful and made this new beginning easier. Be confident and you will succeed!